VIF Dynamics

At the beginning of most relationships is very difficult to bring up the violence. During this period shows a positive trend. Each partner shows his best side. The possibility that the couple ends is very high if a violent episode occurs.PHASE 1. ACCUMULATION OF TENSIONThe dynamics of family violence exists as a cycle that passes through three stages:• As the relationship continues, demand increases and the stress.• There is an increase in aggressive behavior, most commonly at objects to the couple. For example, slamming doors, throwing objects, breaking things.• Violent behavior is reinforced by the release of tension after the violence.• Violence is moved from things to the couple and may be an increased verbal abuse and physical abuse.• The couple try to modify their behavior to avoid violence. For example, each time keeping the house cleaner, the quieter guys, etc.• physical and verbal abuse continues.• The woman begins to feel responsible for the abuse.• The violent becomes obsessively jealous and tries to control everything they can: time and behavior of women (how they dress, where to go, who you are, etc.).• The violent attempts to isolate the victim from family and friends. You can tell, for example, that if love does not need anyone else, or that outsiders are of wood, or you fill your head, or they are crazy and so on.This phase differs from case to case. It may last weeks, days, months or years. Becomes shorter with the passing of time.PHASE 2. Sharp violence• You see the need to download the accumulated tensions• The abuser makes a choice about their violence. Decide time and place for the episode, made a conscious choice about what body part hit and how you will do.• As a result of the episode the tension and stress disappear into the abuser. If police intervention he shows calm and relaxed, while the woman is confused and hysterical because of the violence suffered.PHASE 3. STAGE OF CALM, REPENTANCE OR HONEYMOON• It is characterized by a period of calm, and nonviolent expressions of love and affection.• At this stage, it is possible that the kicker takes over part of the responsibility for the acute episode, giving the couple the hope of a change in the situation in the future. They act as if nothing had happened, they promise to seek help, they promise not to do it, etc.• If no intervention and the relationship continues, there is great potential for violence then escalated and its severity increases.• Unless the striker receives help learning appropriate methods to manage your stress, this stage will only last a while and re-starting the cycle that feeds itself.After a while the first phase again and everything starts again.The man abuser to heal on its own, must be pursued. If the wife stays with him, the cycle will begin again and again, each time with more violence.