Personality of an abuser:

The attackers usually come from violent homes often suffer psychological disorders and many of them use alcohol or drugs that produce that enhances their aggressiveness. They have a certain profile of immaturity, dependency, insecure, emotionally unstable, impatient and impulsive.The attackers usually transferred aggression that have accumulated in other areas to their wives.Abuser often is an isolated, has no close friends jealous (jealousy), low self-esteem that causes frustration and because of that is generated in attitudes of violence.A survey of American psychologists, Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Neil Jacobson. Indicate that male abusers fall into two categories: pitbull and charges, with their own personal characteristics:Pit bull:• It is only violent with the people you love• Jealous and afraid of abandonment• deprives couples of independence• Soon now, monitor and publicly attacking his own partner• Your body reacts violently during an argument• Has potential for rehabilitation• It has not been charged with any crime• Possibly had an abusive father.Cobra:• Aggressive with everyone• Prone to threaten with knives or guns• Calms internally, as becomes aggressive• Difficult to treat psychological therapy• One other person emotionally dependent, but insists that his partner to do what he wants.• You may have been charged with any crime• Abuse of alcohol and drugs.The pitbull is spying on his wife, is celópata, sit well with everyone except their girlfriends or wives. The cobra is a sociopath, cold, calculating, can be warm. The abuse does not stop by itself.After the women had been physically abused and afraid, sometimes stops this kind of abuse and replace it with a constant psychological abuse, through which lets you know his victim, that physical abuse could go at any time.Sometimes the perpetrator of violence hidden fear or insecurity, he felt as a child with an abusive father who beat him frequently, when becoming an adult prefers to take the personality of the abusive father to feel weak and scared. In other cases, the wrongs are the result of a childhood during which very permissive parents indulged the child at all. This leads children to believe than to become an adult and think he is above the law. In other words, you can do whatever they want and abusing anyone. Think you deserve special treatment, better than that given to others.Domestic violence is not always easy to define or recognize. In general terms we could describe it as the deliberate use of force to control or manipulate the family or immediate environment.This is psychological abuse, sexual or physical routine. Happens between people involved emotionally, such as husband and wife or adults against children living in same household.Domestic violence is not only physical abuse, beatings or injuries. They are even more terrible psychological violence and sexual trauma caused, physical violence, everyone can see. There is violence when it attacks the emotional or spiritual integrity of a person.Psychological violence is detected with more difficulty. Who has suffered physical violence is visible traces can be achieved more easily help. However, the victim has psychological scars of type it is more difficult to prove. Too difficult, for example, the manipulative skill of her husband presented his wife as exaggerated complaints or just crazy ..A precedes physical violence, sometimes, years of psychological violence. Psychological violence is, to despise women, so insulting, that there comes a moment that psychologically abused women, and believes that those hits you deserve it. And how difficult is to convince a woman to go to for help when you think you do not need it.Some women are embarrassed by what happens and even create deserving of abuse. Therefore they prefer to keep them secret and so this situation can last for years. Those who abuse their victims they do so according to a pattern of psychological abuse.As in the case of the alcoholic, who hits a woman or physically or sexually abused, the first thing you do is deny it.Denial is saying, "No, I hit him with reason." There is no reason to beat a woman, or anyone else. But they deny. They say: "I have not beaten, I would not done anything, just touching it."Another form of psychological abuse is isolation, which will ostracize the woman, nor did he speak or look at her and then she will believe you deserve such treatment.Bullying is also an abuse. "If you say something I'll kill you." Many women do not dare to speak, by threats that their husbands or partners launched against them.Therefore any drug addict and an abuser, always have excuses and blame someone.Also in the habit of psychological abuse is financial abuse. "If you say something I'll give you the monthly payment."Within this psychological abuse of husbands who beat (which is called in psychology the triangulation), another type of abuse: using children to make them feel guilty wives. In this case the children act as messengers, "Tell your mother ..."Threats by the children, the threats that he will remove the child, these are all psychological abuse that precede physical abuse.All these abuses prevent women leave the home, the violent home. Is that the psychological violence that many women are subjected, is more dreadful than physical abuse. Ask any woman to whom physically abused what hurts more, if the hurtful words, the contempt or shock. The beats are passed, psychological abuse, insults, slights are stuck in the heart.