The boy and the girl hit

We all know that it is always sad and painful life drag when love was not received, especially from parents during childhood. Anyone who has studied even a little human being, I will say that the first five years of life left an indelible mark for life, for better or for worse. Therefore, to deprive a child of love is to deprive of fertilizer to a tree begins to grow, but the beat is like putting poison, it will kill off psychologically, emotionally, or rather will grow mortally wounded. But there are bumps and knocks, some blows draw blood or leave bruises, even a bad shot can lead to death, but there are other more subtle to be seen, but which are recorded on a low heat not only in mind but in the identity of that child or that child. Recorded in his "I" and the fruits of these shots are going to be emotional after their relationships with significant others and their relationship with the world.I would like to talk a little more detail of these shots, which only see or hear who's giving, but not think about the future and terrible consequences that will bring in their children.It is clear that when repeated physical beatings, but especially the psychological or emotional love is depleted. We adults know how painful silence, perhaps more than offensive words. That silence is the worst punishment, now imagine a child who has not done anything and was not speaking, not hugs and caresses it, how it is shaping its identity ... think about it.Have you thought about the damage they do to their children, possibly many times without realizing it, when instead of interacting with their young children are concerned of work, cleaning, etc., An obsessive and perfectionist in the house? Slow-moving beats are defective form sculpture of his son.Silence and absence, when the child complains of small mistakes, but close your heart and your mouth when you do something well. For, example, when the child began kindergarten and made a drawing that four lines could be crossed, but that it was a work of art, rather than hug or praise, you kept silent. This occurs in the child learns to see only errors, but not good in their people.All of these emotional and psychological shock, do as much damage in childhood because the child or the child does not know how to defend, his mind just starts to slowly develop some defense mechanisms to filter and analyze what they see and hear. Your mind is like a sponge, get everything. It does not have to say this is true or not true what they say is right or wrong. So the message-strokes are like giant waves that arrive without control into the depths of that being defenseless. But that is different for children and the future of their children when they palpate the love between his father and mother, when children see them from his mother receives a kiss, hug a parent who comes home from work, or when the father comes with a bouquet of flowers for his wife and kisses his wife. Are details to be recorded in the souls of children who are shaping his personality, which are filled with love that tank-core. Believe me, this is the best legacy we can leave to their children.